As for what you can do. Its gonna be hard on your part but STOP with the wax worms. cut her off cold turkey. She may not eat for a bit but once she's hungry enough she WILL eat. Shes not stupid she knows he has to eat to live. She wont starve herself forever. This will be about 2 weeks 3 tops. I know it sounds cruel to cut her off but its for her own good. Remeber that waxxies are addicting there like ciggerates and beer to us. He needs his addiction broken before his growth is stunted or her puts on far to much weight.
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